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A doctor called his patient’s wife out into the hall and said: “Mam, I don’t like the way your husband looks. “Neither do I,” she said, “but he is really good to the kids.”
“What kind of grade would you give your marriage?” You may want to assign a grade to the marriage as a whole. It may also be helpful to ask, what kind of grade would you give your spouse? What kind of grade would you give yourself? What kind of grade would your spouse give you? Even more helpful, we should probably break the marriage down into components: Fiscal responsibility, parenting, physical attractiveness, spiritual leadership, neatness, helpfulness, romance, etc. When you start to rate the areas, discussion will ensue. The goal is to make this discussion profitable so that you can each improve.
Being a strong Christian in every sense of the word will make you a better marriage partner. Think about these characteristics of Christians that are good for your marriage. Christians are concerned about others. Concern engenders listening and communication. Christians practice love. The Bible tells husbands to love their wives. Christians have a positive sexual ethic. God created man and woman for the satisfaction and fulfillment of one another in marriage. The Christian appreciates the God given beauty of sex. If this aspect of marriage is missing, we need to study or seek advice from a competent source. Christians can forgive. If you cannot forgive, your marriage is DOOMED! Christians are instructed to bring up their children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Christians take their responsibility to provide for their own seriously. This does not mean that we will never struggle, but that we will be willing workers for our families. Christians are kind. If there is ever a place where kindness fails, it is in a troubled marriage. Christians, like Christ, learn to live unselfishly and for others. To sum it up, when we try to live the Biblical ethic, we will be adding those traits that should make for a happy marriage.
First and foremost, to have a happy marriage, Make a commitment. The ceremony says, “Till death do us part.” What God has joined together, let not man put asunder.
Make marriage a Priority. Put is first over your parents. Put it first over your kids. Put if first over your job. Put it first over getting rich.
You must continue to work at marriage through all its stages. When the kids leave home, if you do not love each other, you will be lost. Retirement takes other adjustments. There are some big adjustments when the kids come along.
To be happy and successful in marriage, we must deal with our demons. All of us have things that detract from our marriage. Some things can destroy a marriage. We must find out what is doing harm to our marriage and heal it. Financial irresponsibility is terrible on a marriage.
Perhaps the most important tip today about marriage is to have God at the center of your life. From God we learn the marriage skills of kindness, forgiveness, unconditional love and faithfulness. God is our model for love.
Best of all, when we place God at the center of our lives, he will help us through times of difficulty.
Let each of us make a commitment today to do all that we can to have a stronger marriage and a more Christ like commitment to our partner. With God’s help-We can!