Back after a long gap without any new posts here on TBTG website, we are happy to present to you some cool new parenting tips in short video clip formats in Malayalam language. This is a new venture from the Angels’ Army team. These are excerpts from the talk show Madhuramozhi which discusses various topics related to parenting from a catholic point of view.
Kids inside Church
The very first video in this series, given above, talks about the concern over the playful behavior of kids inside churches. This is a pretty common sight during Holy Mass, at least in churches in Kerala. What all thoughts come to your mind when you see kids playing around a lot inside church? As a parent, what do you feel about your own little kid roaming around inside the church catching everyone’s attention? See the video clip above to know more.
Sterilization Vs Recanalization
In this second video clip, a couple discusses the conception and birth of their fifth child after recanalization operation. After having 4 children, the couple initially decides to do sterilization and stops any further pregnancy. What prompts them to do a re-think and do recanalization? Watch the above video clip to know more.
Preparation for Marriage
The importance of preparing for marriage is discussed in this third video clip from Madhuramozhi. How do you prepare for your own wedding? Are you more concerned on the physical aspects of marriage like the grand marriage ceremony, the long VIP guest list, the grand feast etc? Or even long before you decide your life partner, do you even start to pray for your would-be spouse and his/her family? Watch this third video clip above to know how some catholic couples are preparing spiritually very well in advance for their marriage and the blessings they receive due to this.
Watch the 15min video shown above. The video is on sexuality and chastity in a Catholic’s life.
Most people think that the Catholic Church hates human sexuality and bans the practice of it except for the necessity of having kids. Well, in fact most of us are just simply misinformed. We need to understand what Church actually means when it says we should practice chastity. It’s not just about saying NO, it’s about living life to the fullest.
Three Ways To Look At Sexuality
The hedonistic way – Sex meant only for enjoyment and happiness. If it feels good, do it.
The secular way – Never harm anyone. But anything goes if the two agree to participate.
The Catholic way – Sex is a holy and good thing created by God for union of man and woman and the procreation of children. It is sacramental in nature. Not to be confused with the type of sex practiced by animals which is basically biological in nature.
We are placed on this earth to know, love and serve God and be happy with Him in the next. Happiness, personal fulfillment etc are not the main goals of humanity. Instead serving God and loving one another are! Sexuality fits into this plan by uniting man and woman producing the foundation of society, mainly the Family. From all of this, comes true happiness on this earth.
Catholic church believes Sex is Good
When God created the Heavens and the Earth, He created them good. When God created the animals, He created them good. When God created man, He created him good. Male and Female He created them. Adam and Eve complimented one another. Together they made humanity perfect. So when they had sex, God saw that it was good and from the love between them came a closer relationship to God and a closer relationship to one another and the family. It was absolutely beautiful!
What is Concupiscence?
That is the tendency we have in our bodies and souls to twist God’s gift including sexuality into dark and sinful ways. The church’s teaching on Sexuality is not complicated, in fact it is very easy to remember.
The 4 Basic Truths
God created man in His image and likeness. Nothing else in creation is like us or blessed like us. God dwells in us.
God created man as a physical being. Yes, man has a soul but the body is equally as important. Our bodies are good.
God blessed us with the physical reality as Male and Female, saying be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth and subdue it.
Man is created in original solitude. He is alone. And in that solitude he realizes his relationship to God and the fact that he is different from everything else in the world. But God does not think it’s good for the man to be alone, so He creates a partner. Adam is no longer man, instead man is now seen as male and female, from solitude to communion. Now the union of the male and the female becomes a shadow with the trinity, a communion of persons.
What is Chastity?
This is a virtue which helps us against Concupiscence. It is the virtue whereby we regulate our use of sexual activity in accord with our state of life. It does not mean no use of our sexuality, rather it means the appropriate use of our sexual powers given the state of our life. Chastity is a robust, freeing, courageous type of virtue that helps a person be at peace with the urgent longing that human beings feel. Chastity helps us all realize that we are more than just sexual objects.
Catholic Church’s Stand
Like all other things in our life, sexuality must be integrated into who and what we are and the type of lives that we lead. Knowing the truths described above, makes understanding our Church’s teaching on sexual issues much easier. Of course families form the bedrock of our society. They come from that self-giving love that a male and female in marriage share. Of course divorce is not going to be seen as permissible because it breaks up that community of love that is a family.
And of course, we are not going to accept same-sex marriage because marriage by its definition needs a male and a female. Whatever union same-sex partners have, it is not a marriage. We cannot make words mean something they do not. Of course, abortion is going to be wrong. We are made in the image and likeness of God and destroying innocent human life is a terrible thing. And of course embryonic stem cell research which relies on killing an embryo is wrong because it destroys a human being. Same thing with vitro fertilization which destroys life and separates the begetting of children from the love between husband and wife. And even contraception, which a vast majority of Catholics think is OK. That’s not going to be okay if you believe as the Church does, that marriage is both unitive (love side) and procreative (kids side).
Since our bodies don’t have consciences, only our souls do, the very pleasure associated with sex clouds our minds on issues of right and wrong. And that’s why we have to give weight to church’s teaching. Our Catholic morality is based on human experience reflected on in the light of the scriptures for nearly two thousand years. Please follow it.
Watch the above video clip on the story of an eagle. It is a story of change, a story of rebirth, a story of inspiration. Please play the 3 minute short video embedded on this page.
Story of Eagle Rebirth
The Eagle has the longest life-span of its species. It can live up to 70 years. But to reach this age, the eagle must make some tough decisions. In its 40th year, its long flexible talons can no longer grab prey which serves as food. Its long and sharp beak bends. Its old-aged and heavy wings, due to their thick feathers, stick to its chest and make it difficult to fly.
Then, the eagle is left with only two options: DIE or go through a painful process of CHANGE.
The process requires that the eagle fly to a mountain top and sit on its nest. There the eagle knocks its beak against a rock until it plucks it out. Then the eagle will wait for a new beak to grow until it plucks out the talons. When the new talons grow back, the eagle starts plucking its thick heavy feathers. And after 5 months, the eagle takes its famous flight of rebirth and lives for another 30 years.
Why is the change needed?
Change is needed to survive and live! We too have to start the change process. We also have to pluck our unpleasant memories, negative habits and fixed mindset. Only freed from the past burden, can we take advantage of the present. Let us soar again!