Safety on our surroundings decay day by day, not even the children are not safe. We entrust our children in faith to the protection of the Lord all the ways they go. But still it is important that the children are well informed of the traps.
Many parents, thinking that sexual talks are forbidden before children, do not caution them. Healthy knowledge and awareness of sexual behavior is to be handed on to children. They must be aware of what should be done and should not be done.
Ten guidelines to protect your child from sexual abuse
1. Make sure your children know that it is not safe to trust all adults. Tell them that most adults can be trusted, but there are some adults who want to hurt children. Remind them of this every time you are emphasizing the importance of body privacy. Help your children develop a healthy suspicion of older children or adults who want to become overly affectionate with them. Remember, child molesters are more likely to be successful in seducing uninformed and naive children than children who display a healthy suspicion of those who show too much interest in them.
2. Periodically quiz your child about what happens during these times when they are left in the care of other people.
3. Teach your children to stay away from people they don’t know. Caution them against approaching a car driven by a stranger. Warn them to never get into that car, even if the man says, “Your mother has sent me to pick you up for her.” Don’t allow your children to accept gifts from strangers. Explain to them that child molesters often use gifts to lure children into a special relationship with them.
4. Don’t allow your children to be alone on the street after dark. Teach them to look out for strange cars or people who show up in their play areas. Tell them to remember their descriptions and stay away from them. Ask them to bring these cars and people to your attention.
5. Since molesters are often relatives or trusted friends, it’s extremely important for you to never leave your child alone with someone unless you are absolutely sure that person is totally responsible and trustworthy. You can’t afford to make the mistake of assuming they are. You must know that person is safe for your children to be with.
6. Frequently caution your small children to never let anybody touch them underneath their clothing, unless they are helping them go to the bathroom or take a bath. And even when this happens, it should always be with your knowledge and permission. These steps are good precautions.
7. Be sure your child knows that no one should ask them to take part in any sexual activity. Make your children promise to tell you or someone in authority whenever they have been in appropriately touched or abused.
8. Locate any areas in the children’s environment where molestation is likely to occur and bring those areas to your children’s attention, including: back stairways, elevators, alleys, abandoned buildings, wooded areas, and public restrooms. Warn your child to avoid these areas. Never send your child into a public restroom by himself of herself. These are places where predators wait for unsuspecting children.
9. Tell your children there is safety in numbers. Once they start school, encourage them to walk to and from school with their friends.
10. If your children have to be home alone, caution them to keep the doors and windows locked at all times. They should admit no visitors. Teach them to answer the phone in such a way that the caller will not know they are alone. For example, teach them to say, “My mother is not home right now.” Tell them to say, “My mom or my dad can’t come to the phone right now.” That’s true. Explain to them that they haven’t lied by implying that you are home, but neither have they exposed themselves to violation by saying Mom and Dad aren’t home. They are simply telling the caller that Mom or Dad can’t come to the phone right now.
– – – written by Richard Dobb