It was a busy morning, approximately 8:30 am, When an elderlyÂ gentleman in his 80’s, arrived to have stitches removed from hisÂ thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment atÂ 9:00 am. I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing itÂ would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him. I sawÂ him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy withÂ another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On exam it was wellÂ healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies toÂ remove his sutures and redress his wound.
While taking care of hisÂ wound, we began to engage in conversation I asked him if he had aÂ doctor’s appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. TheÂ gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eatÂ breakfast with his wife. I then inquired as to her health. He told meÂ that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim ofÂ Alzheimer Disease.
As we talked, and I finished dressing his wound, I asked if she wouldÂ be worried if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knewÂ who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now. I wasÂ surprised, and asked him. “And you still go every morning, even thoughÂ she doesn’t know who you are?” He smiled as he patted my hand andÂ said. “She doesn’t know me, but I still know who she is.”
I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm, andÂ thought, “That is the kind of love I want in my life.”
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True love is neither physical, nor romantic. True love is anÂ acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be. The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything;Â they just make the best of everything that comes along their way.